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Unfair
“Unfair” is a word commonly used in our house. It is unfair that one sissy has a green headband, it is unfair that Meg has 4 American Girl dolls, it is unfair that your peach and I’m brown....
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Summer Is Coming
Summer is coming! Last day of school! Sleeping in and playing all day! Yeah, won’t everyone be happy now? Don’t we wish! As parents of older adopted children we know that a change in the “normal”...
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Teflon Families
Sometimes I think of families who have adopted older children as “Teflon Families”. (I certainly think of myself and my family that way.) By that, I mean that often times older children who are...
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When is Your Birthday?
When my husband and I decided to adopt an older child living in the orphanage in India where we were adopting an infant, we were given a picture of a little girl with a beautiful face and large,...
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The Stuff That Matters
Last November I was at an adoption support group meeting and one of the moms was doing respite care for a family who had adopted a ten-year-old from Ethiopia. This little girl had not been in the...
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Getting Needs Met
I just finished a book for my book club tonight—the book is Janusz Bardach’s Man is Wolf to Man: Surviving the Gulag. It is a powerful book about so many things, and I am really looking forward to our...
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Time for Bonding
Bonding and attachments are topics in adoption that get a lot of press—and I understand why. Lately, I have been reflecting on the process of coming together with my children. I have three kids who...
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The Beginning
Welcome to my blog post! I’m glad you are here, and I hope you visit often. To give you a little background on our situation, my husband and I have been married for 13+ years. We got married when we...
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Finding a Place to Belong
I’ve mostly seen adoption from the other side–from the perspective of the child. I’ll never forget the look in Boipelo’s eye when we told her. Boipelo, who had waited so long and so patiently. Boipelo...
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The Mis-Labeled Child
Who would have thought me a parent of an 11 year old with a style, attitude, mind, and personality all of her own very own. It’s amazing as I reflect on just how wonderfully unexpected it was for my...
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